Questionably Gay

This story is about 2 weeks late, but it's a goody, as you might be able to tell by the title.

I signed up for POF, because it was free and the whole online dating scene makes me incredibly hesitant (and I think you can agree, for good reason).  Within days I started talking to this guy, who I had messaged and never expected to hear back from.  Basically, his profile spoke to me about how relationships are a give and take, he is looking for his best friend, he just moved here to be closer to his family because his dad lost everything in the economy, and he was super cute.  I didn't expect to hear back from him because I thought we were looking for different things (resisting the urge to insert joke here) but he responded and we agreed to get to know each other better.

I met up with him for drinks, a little late on Sunday night after his prodding.  Let me preface by saying that I had a wonderful time and think he's a really great guy.  I even found him attractive in person, which surprised me because he had grown some facial hair and based on previous experience, photos lie.  With that said, he had verbal diarreah of things you shouldn't tell a girl on a first date- or maybe ever. 

He told me he had proposed twice.  Sad, but I could handle that.

We talked about fashion and he was cluing me in on some new designer stuff that I hadn't heard of and all the stars were wearing.  A little odd, but bearable. 

He told me he spent 60 days in jail (apparently he dated a girl under 18 when he was 18- laws I guess are different).  Not good but at least it seemed like it was unfair. 

Then somehow we got on the discussion of gay people.  Now I know how I feel about gays (for those who don't me, I have some super close friends who are gay), so I asked him how he felt.  His response, "I love gays, I even thought I was gay for 6 months."  Wait, what?????

Later on, he told me when he was hammered he had gay tendencies.  Flag #2.

I immediately the next day had to consult some friends on whether he was gay and just didn't know it.  The verdict, sadly, is that he is. 

I have talked to him some since then, even asked what he meant about thinking that he was gay.  He told me he didn't sleep with any guys.  THANK GOD- that would be an awkward convo.  But what about the spectrum between kissing and having sex?  I just don't want to know.

He's a really great guy.  I wish I could even offer him another chance.  I also wish that I could help bring him out of the closet now and help the poor girl he marries from the cost of therapy down the road when he realizes that it wasn't just a 6 month phase of his life.  But I can't. 

Do you think it's possible I could just be friends with someone I met on POF?

Last Year

So last year I did the whole eharmony thing.  What a time that was.  I don't think I will ever forget the time that I got matched with a guy that had like half a mohawk that stood up at good 6 inches in the air- totally not my type.

I did go on two dates though, that made me pretty much immediately give up online dating.  How I am attempting this again makes me question my sanity, but I degress.

The first date I went on was with a weatherman who spent a lot of time in SoFla where he worked, but lived in Orlando.  A word of advice... these guys know how to use their hands.  If your thoughts went down the gutter, I am sorry to disappoint you.  Think about the amount of time they spend gesturing at a green screen to show up areas of the map and storms.  This was how he was in real life too- animated, almost theatrical.  I just wasn't feeling it, and when he texted me an hour later telling me how wonderful I was, I ran quickly in the other direction.  

The second date I went on was with this guy from Daytona Beach.  He was an accountant, but not at all boring like you would expect an accountant to be.  I remember enjoying getting to know him, and thinking how gorgeous he was- until I learned two things- pictures lie, and he was short.  I wore heels and I felt like a giant next to him.  My friend reminded me last night that he didn't like ice in his soda.  This really bugged me at the time, because it's just incredibly abnormal.  Especially for places that offer free refills.  He also weirded me out, but in a years time I don't merely remember the details as well, so I apologize for the lackluster description in what went wrong.

I decided eharmony was a little bit pricey, and when I received questionable matches like mohawk dude, I decided to quit while I was ahead of the game.  And that game just happened to be living the single life for a bit longer, before attempting online dating yet once again. 

Intro

Hi my name is... well let's just call me C.  I am 28 years old, and it's been about a year and a half since I've had a boyfriend.  In the meantime, I've had lots of, err... fun, but out of boredom and curiousity, I have decided to see what else might be out there.  Hence the putting myself online for whoever to see that I am "available". 

This isn't my first time checking out the online world.  Last year I was on eharmony for about a month, and in that time I had a lot of laughs.  I found the experience to be more humorous than serious, and some of my friends enjoyed laughing with me.  I have been on another website, POF, for about two weeks now, and so far the same results.   Hence the misadventures. 

So what exactly am I looking for?  I find that a lot of these guys are looking to get married.  I am just looking for that first step.  You know, a boyfriend.  If you end up being the MOMD (man of my dreams), so be it.  I hope we live happily ever after.  But, I am not seeking to skip a bunch of steps here to get a ring on my finger.

This blog is about the journey.  Not the destination.